Our Stories

As a sibling abuse survivor, actor, writer, counsellor, and teacher, I am committed to the power of stories … listening, gathering, writing, and sharing them.

A goal of this website is to be a ‘gathering place’ for stories of sibling abuse … my story, those I have created and will create, and most importantly, the ones that I gather.

YOUR stories.

Stories of struggle and survival; of a difficult childhood and its impact in adulthood; of relationships, perhaps toxic, perhaps estranged, as well as those that are healing and transformative; stories from survivors of sibling abuse, their perpetrators, parents, teachers, therapists and helpers.

Stories that look at all sides.

“Remember, the perpetrator is a victim too.”

Gabor Mate, internationally-renowned doctor, writer, speaker, and a significant  voice in bringing the impact of childhood trauma to the public domain, said that to me at a workshop in Stratford, Ontario; I approached him to talk about my play, Broken Branches, expecting something like, “That’s great! Nobody’s talking about that issue!” But all he said was that.

“Remember, the perpetrator is a victim too.” They also have their story. That wisdom has greatly informed my work, helping me to see our sameness, not our difference. Because … hurt people hurt people.

Using a form where anonymity is your choice, we will ask questions to guide you in sharing your experience, questions like:  What happened to you? How did it impact you? How did you get through it to be here now?

I believe that by creating space and opportunities to learn about sibling abuse, gathering together and sharing stories of those with all sides of lived experience, we will come to a shared awareness that it’s NOT just rivalry.