Look through the Resources below to learn more about sibling abuse.


Sibling Aggression and Abuse Research and Advocacy Initiative (SAARA)


Centre for Research and Education on Violence Against Women and Children (CREVAWC)/The Learning Network – Western University, London Ontario, Canada
Issue 21: Sibling Violence

7 Facts Everyone Needs To Know About Sibling Violence

Beyond Rivalry, a Hidden World of Sibling Violence

How Sibling Abuse Can Affect Survivors

Sibling Bullying and Abuse: The Hidden Epidemic

How to Recognize Sibling Abuse  

Sibling Rivalry or Sibling Abuse?

Helping children and families address and prevent sibling abuse – for School Counsellors

Sibling bullying: humiliated and scorned by a family member . . . this is not just ‘sibling rivalry’

When There Is No Getting Away: The Grief of Sibling Bullying

The Trauma of Sibling Abuse – A Mother’s Perspective

When the Bully Is a Sibling

Dieter Wolke Aggression between siblings: Associations with the home environment and peer bullying

Sibling Bullying Can Lead to Depression, Anxiety in Victims
Survivors will likely struggle throughout their lives with mental health and addiction issues, relationship difficulties and more, including suicide and ongoing abuse, as victim, perpetrator or both. Often, they are unaware their struggles are rooted in abuse by a brother or sister because our society accepts, ignores and/or silences violence, psychological and sexual abuse by siblings. Normalizing it as sibling ‘rivalry’ effectively condones it.

Improving sibling relationships – Psychologists’ research shows that these long-lasting relationships are more critical than many people think and offers insights on how to improve them

Seven Steps to Teaching Children Body Autonomy
Children experience a high frequency of violence from other children. Surveys suggest more than half of all children experience violence from a sibling in the course of a year (Goodwin & Roscoe, 1990; Roscoe, Goodwin, & Kennedy, 1987; Straus & Gelles, 1990; Straus, Gelles, & Steinmetz, 1980) and a quarter to a third from a non-sibling peer (Bennett & Fineran, 1998; Coker et al., 2000, Duncan, 1999; Finkelhor & Dziuba-Leatherman, 1994; Kilpatrick, Saunders, & Smith, 2002; Marcus, 2005, Singer et al., 1999).
However, this violence between children, especially young children, is regarded differently from violence in general. The same violent act—a punch to the head or a whack with an object—that against an adult would readily be labeled an assault and treated as a crime, would rarely be so labeled when committed by one young child against another. Child-on-child violence is more often described with other terms like scuffles, fights, or altercations.
Compared to peer assaults on older youth, very young child victims were actually more likely to be injured and more likely to be hit with an object that could cause injury. 
This study failed to confirm what many people would take for granted: that peer and sibling violence among younger children is less serious than among older youth. One implication is that such violence needs to be taken more seriously by schools and parents, and not dismissed with a view that it is just normal, minor and inconsequential. Schools and parents may need to set clearer standards against such violence and intervene earlier to prevent recurrence and protect victims.


CBC Radio: The Current Hear playwright Lorene Stanwick, along with two other survivors of sibling abuse, in discussion with Anna Maria Tremonti. ‘I’m still petrified of her’, sibling bullying and its lasting effects (May 31/16)

The discussion that prompted the segment above. CBC received so many letters, they invited Lorene and two other respondents to share their stories.
“Sibling bullying has the greatest impact” (May 13/16) Sibling Bullying and Risk of Depression, Anxiety, and Self-Harm: A Prospective Cohort Study (the research discussed)

Dr. Vernon Wiehe, author of several books about sibling abuse

Dr. Vernon Wiehe is the author of ten books in the field of family violence, speciifically violence between siblings. he has appeared on numerous TV and radio programs discussing sibling abuse and has lectured throughout the United States and abroad.

Watch Dr. Wiehe’s discussion with playwright Lorene Stanwick at a post-show talkback with the audience!

Radio interview with Dr. Wiehe. Includes abuse vs. rivalry, prevalence, prevention, and the importance of listening to, and believeing, children.  

A list of Dr. Wiehe’s books

Sibling Abuse: Hidden Physical, Emotional, and Sexual Trauma by Dr. Vernon Wiehe

Other Resources

Is it sibling bullying? Today’s Parent addresses the issue (with further links following the article)

Sibling Bullying and Abuse: The Hidden Epidemic Posted in PAces Connection, a healing-centred social network community exploring ACES (Adverse Childhood Experiences); originally published in Psychology Today

‘It Was Definitely About Power’: The Horrendous, Hidden Impact of Sibling Abuse VICE explores the issue

Helping children and families address and prevent sibling abuse From Counselling Today, A Publication of the American Counseling Association - A counsellor’s perspective, including a 5-step assessment and intervention model for counsellors

Discipline for Sibling Abuse Not a great title but the content is good – clear, concise, almost a “checklist” for parents.

Sibling Sexual Abuse Facts Parents Should Know From Very Well Mind, an online Mental Health site

Sibling Sexual Abuse: A Guide for Parents A publication by the Public Health Agency of Canada  

Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) study A great overview and information about the original ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) study with, however, a notable absence of sibling abuse)

Bessel van der Kolk: The Body Keeps the Score The definitive book about trauma. Integrating therapy with science, this research demonstrates how critical it is to understand the impact of trauma, including developmental trauma that can – and often does – develop as a result of sibling abuse.